I have... heard a few things. [also he read the entire archive for fun and truly what can he say except Yikes.]

... When a terrible thing happens, you always try to think of what you could have done differently. You ask, "What would I have done, if I had known?" [shakes head] But, it's the wrong question, isn't it? Because you didn't know, and couldn't have. Instead, you can ask, "Knowing what I know now, what can I do to prevent this from ever happening again?"

[he catches himself looking into the mirror.]

The past will always be what it is. The future is meant to change.